Welcome To The Team

I am a noticer but let me clarify: I am not someone who notices the color of the walls in an office building, or the type of flowers in a coffee shop, and I certainly would be terrible at identifying someone in a police line-up!

What I notice are patterns and trends.

For example, my brain lights up when multiple people use the same rare word, when individuals express a similar emotion, or when different people mention the same struggle.  

In the last couple of months, a theme has been showing up in my life. I have noticed a particular phrase. I have heard it in face-to-face conversations, over text, email, and on the phone, as well as in one-on-one conversations and in group settings. Each time, the tone is the same. It is said with a hint of embarrassment or disappointment as if they have let someone down.

The phrase? “I’m a mess.”

When said face-to-face, the person almost always looks down, eyes toward the floor, like they want to hide from this reality. Their body language is that of a puppy who just got yelled at for chewing on a shoe.

But these moments of realizing you are a mess are so transformative! I want to tell you what I have shared with every person who has said those words to me.

 “Yes, you are a mess. We all are, but the only ones who know they are a mess are the ones who are doing work on themselves. Congratulations! Welcome to the team.”

The only reason I know I am vitamin D deficient is because I get my bloodwork done.

I know I put on 4-6 pounds every winter because I weigh myself.

I am well aware that at my next oil change, I also need to get my spark plugs replaced because I do regular maintenance check-ups.

Because I work on myself, I am deeply aware that I, too, am a mess. This is not something to be ashamed of. We all have areas of growth, but we will only know what we need to work on when we are willing to pull back the curtain on our lives and expose the underlying issues.

I love being around people who embrace their messiness because they are the ones who dare to confront the truth. They don’t hide behind a facade of perfection—they’re out there, in the thick of it, getting their hands dirty, growing, and evolving. And that’s where real transformation happens.

So, if you find yourself in the middle of the mess, don’t shy away—lean in. You are doing the work, the hard and necessary work of becoming who you’re meant to be. Celebrate that. In your messiness lies the power to become something truly extraordinary.

Remember, the people who pretend to have it all together might seem polished on the outside, but it’s those of us who embrace the mess who are truly shaping our lives and the world around us from the inside out.

And if, at this moment, you are wondering for the first time if you, too, might be a mess, the odds are high that the answer is yes. But you will only know for sure if you choose to do the hard work of truly seeing yourself.

It may sound scary, but I can tell you from personal experience that an amazing group of humans are ready to welcome you to the team.   

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